It often amazes me how people can be so callous to Angel parents without knowing of the pain they are going through on a daily basis.
You often get people say things like “When are you going to try again ? or “you have other children”. To those people I have a challenge for you , Imagine for one second that you have to choose one for your children to loose , Can`t do it can you now imagine how we feel and you may understand just a ounce of what we are going through.
Lets touch on the Trying again part as its a very hot topic .
on the 23rd September 2014 My rainbow was born for the entire pregnancy there was daily worry, trying to juggle a job on top of a very worried pregnant lady and a very worried dad.
The last 8 weeks of the pregnancy were spent in hospital , all this added stress on-top of still coping with the loss of our son the previous year.The result of having our rainbow ? A very healthy baby girl
Now all this is well and good but for mummy who (nearly died the previous year the night before giving birth to our Angel) ended up with a life long disability and we struggle daily. Some may say but you chose to do it or you have your baby , Yes we do but we also have our angel still and more importantly we have to juggle both.
Its not just as simple as trying again, regardless of age people often tell others , “your only young , you can try again ” Like been young makes it any less traumatic for them
So next time you tell an Angel parent to move on or that they have other kids , think twice before saying it .
I have included a video I had a part in making for DWA with this blog , What not to say to an Angel parent
Daddys With Angels