To trust or not to trust. ( Doctors)


Over the past four years I have had numerous conversations with parents, Angel parents and have read numerous articles about the failures of Gp’s  (family doctor) and hospital doctors. We very rarely hear good news about them, but that isn’t because there isn’t any good news about them. it’s because it’s often overshadowed with bad stories. 

I recently wrote about Darcey who would have been with her parents if the ambulance service and the hospital had done things differently, and that’s just an example. In the closed groups I hear similar stories, that a child was sent home without proper checks and subsequently died, or some intervention caused a death.

Stories like this, which are not confined to support groups on social media, but  frequently appear in the nation press can be enough to cause people not to trust doctors; which is understandable. Personally I have experienced excellent care from my gp and hospital doctors, but I will not let that biase me, because this isn’t about me and my experiences.

I want to condense some observations I have made on this subject.

  • If you are pregnant and need some urgent medical intervention and it will be quicker  to get to the hospital yourself, then consider doing that. (unless it would make your situation worse.)
  • If at anytime in your pregnancy you are concerned about anything, no matter how small then go to your midwife/doctor or hospital. Don’t consider it wasting anyone’s time, consider it that you are ensuring your baby is ok. Please also see Count the Kicks on facebook.
  • If your child is unwell and you take them to the gp(family doctor) and are sent home don’t be afraid to go back or go to hospital if you are not satisfied. It may be 5 minutes later, it may be a day later; but that’s all it can take for something tragic to happen.
  • If your child is in hospital and has undergone tests and deemed to be fit to go home and you are not happy, then don’t go. Ask the questions that are troubling you, ask for a second opinion.

About Daddys with Angels.

We began as a group for grieving fathers and men in families, but other family members asked to join us. We now also have a group for Families with Angels dads and other male family members and siblings under 18. We have experienced and live with the harsh pain of loss and we hope we can bring other comfort with what we do, To find us please search for us on face book or Hugs to you all and floaty kisses to all your angels. We retain the name Daddys With Angels.
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One Response to To trust or not to trust. ( Doctors)

  1. Kath says:

    My husband and I were recently at the emergency room with my son following a febrile seizure. We had already lost our daughter, having been told the entire time that she was strong and we were being nervous parents, and no, they would not do any testing. Sinxe, we’ve obviously regretted with all our hearts not following our instincts. In this current er room, there was a young Mom who had a 6 month old baby with whooping cough. Said child was to get a nebulizer to breath, but was told to leave because it was too busy and he would “probably” be fine. The mom refused to sign the paper to discharge, as they received no care. A Woman who we did not realize at the time had no soul (I swear that their are people in the medical profession I love and respect, I don’t by any means mean to tarnish them all by the same brush) came to discuss the mothers “options”. Of which were, go home, and find adequate care for the child on her own, or “get assistance.” This poor woman 2 as terrified that if she went to sleep, it could be a fatal error. He obviously needed medical attention. When she asked what assistance was offered, she was told that child protective services would organize foster care.
    So get out of my hospital, or we’ll take your child from you.
    I was aghast. How do you combat this?! I was that mom. Insisted on care too late, suffered the consequences. And they were threatening to take her child for being a GOOD MOM. Far better than I had felt I was- after all, I bowed to pressure.
    To any medical personnel reading this- please understand what our child means to us. We are their advocates. It is your job to be the child’s advocate as well.

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